Whether it is golfing or just having a backyard barbecue, Father’s Day is about the time you spend the day with your dad rather than how much money is spent.

Unlike Mother’s Day when moms are showered with candy, flowers or gifts, Father’s Day typically is more subdued. Ken Duffy of Shorewood said his children don’t feel the pressure to buy gifts for him like they do for his wife.

“I like the fact we just spend the day together doing things like golfing or watching a baseball game,” said Duffy, a father of four. “We normally go to the White Sox game when they are in town on Father’s Day. Since they are on the road this Sunday, we will likely golf and have a barbecue.”

Raoul Martinez of Bolingbrook said this Father’s Day is bittersweet as he lost his beloved father earlier this year.

“My dad died from cancer back in February and this will be my first Father’s Day that I do not celebrate the day with him,” said Martinez, a dad to two daughters. “I know my kids know this will be a hard time for me, so we are just going to have a quiet dinner as a family and watch movies.”

Since she cannot see her dad in person this Sunday as he now lives in Arizona, Cathy McKinney of Joliet said she will Facetime him and tell her father she wishes he was back in Chicago.

“Fathers are the pillars of our society,” she said. “They set us on the path toward

doing the right things. Everything I know about life I learned from my dad.”

McKinney’s brother, Jim Becker, agrees.

“Our dad (Robert Becker) really spent time with us and made sure we knew right from wrong,” he said. “I hope to become a dad one day and hopefully pass these virtues to my child. Fathers, like mothers, are truly special people.”

Johnathan Barefield, also of Joliet said his accounting job has taken him away from his family this Father’s Day and he misses them but said he will see them. “I can’t be with my family on Father’s Day in person but I’m looking forward to spending time with them through facetime,” Barefield said.