- Last Updated on Wednesday, 18 January 2012 19:14
- Written by Gwendolyn Baines
- Category: Ask Gwen
I am currently on a crusade. Ten years ago I quit law school and married a man with four children. His wife had left him and I made the mistake of taking up with him. I did not know that his intentions were to misuse me.
I first met him through a friend. Somehow, however, he made eyes at me and we started a relationship. In fact, Gwendolyn, I took him away from her. After our marriage I found out he was deeply in debt. So, sadly, I started putting my money into his children and into him. I paid all the bills while he went on auditions to become a star. Well, he became a star and left me. His children, now teenagers, never call and at least ask how I am doing. He has filed for a divorce.
Years ago I gave him a gift of a genuine leather wallet and a money clip. I told him that when he makes it big, he would have the money clip and the wallet to put his money.
Gwendolyn, I feel so used.
I know you want more of an uplift from me, but sorry, I cannot give it. You made the mistake of taking him from a friend. Too often lust never pans out to be about anything positive and happy. Another mistake you made was to quit law school and marry that man. Girl, what were you thinking? It is unwise to give up what you are doing for ‘self’ dealing with someone else.
Marilyn, stop feeling down about his children not showing you respect. Sometimes your own biological children do not give respect. Let me tell you this: Your husband showed you how nothing he was when he started dealing with you. But think about it. You also showed him how nothing you were when you took him— from your friend.