I Snapped at my Mother-in-Law

Alma Gill | 1/8/2014, 4:48 p.m.
Dear Alma, We were at my niece’s 5th birthday party. I’m pregnant, and it has not been easy. My MIL ...

Dear Alma,

We were at my niece’s 5th birthday party. I’m pregnant, and it has not been easy. My MIL [mother-in-law] arrived and started greeting everybody. Then she asks how “baby Orlando” is doing. I didn’t answer her because we have not picked out a name for our baby. She started calling my unborn son by her father’s name about a month ago. This time, I had decided enough was enough. I snapped and told her that wasn’t his name and we would let her know when we had one. Then I left the room before I said something I would really regret. I know that the tone of voice I used was not the best, but I still can’t get over what happened next. My MIL left. She didn’t say goodbye to anyone; she just got in her car and left. She made me feel guilty for the rest of the party. Was there something I could have done better, or should I just chalk the whole situation up to my MIL’s a control freak?

Sherry, Olney, Md.

Hi Sherry,

Ahhh, maybe something else happened that you failed to mention, because from what I’ve read, Miss Do Right – you did wrong. Ok, so your MIL has pre-named her grand baby. So what? It’s just a nickname and all in fun, I’m sure. Why are you so mad about that? You and your husband will have the final say. We’ve got hungry children in the world, and this has you all tied in a knot. TBT, you delivered a stinger Mz. Mommie to Bee! You insulted your MIL at the party in front of everybody, and for no good reason. She didn’t make you feel guilty; that was your conscience trying to have a conversation with you, but you weren’t listening. Call your MIL and apologize –now. Let her know your hormones have been all over the place lately. Ask her over for tea, out to lunch, shopping or whatever. Fix this before baby boy is born. There’s too much joy ahead for you and your family to let this foolishness block your blessings.