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My husband embarrassed me

Alma Gill | 6/25/2014, 1:51 p.m.
Dear Alma, We were recently at a cookout at my cousin’s house and I went over to sit on my ...

Dear Alma,

We were recently at a cookout at my cousin’s house and I went over to sit on my husband’s lap. The next thing I knew, he pulled my dress up all the way over my head. I was soooooo embarrassed. My niece came over to help me get my dress down. I’m a curvy girl, so it wasn’t easy. I couldn’t believe he did that in front of everybody. All of our family and friends were there. He said he asked me not to sit on his lap because his leg was hurting. What should I do? Why do you think he did that?

Embarrassed,

Dear Embarrassed,

He did what!? Give me a minute! I’m so mad at your husband right now I can hardly speak. That was so disrespectful. I would venture to say it was borderline abusive. Glorious knows I am in no position to evaluate your embarrassment and or tolerance level of humiliation, but what I will say is, you need to re-evaluate what’s unacceptable behavior within your marriage. Be honest with yourself. What exactly, my dear, is at the root of his wanting to publicly disgrace you? Because that’s what he did. You’ve got a much bigger problem than him not wanting you to sit on his lap and I’ve got a feeling this isn’t your first trip entering his danger zone. He’s warning you, are you listening? It’s clear to me that he is not respecting you as a husband should respect his wife or anyone for that fact. And he’s making it clear to you, in front of your friends and family, you are no longer the “One!”

Alma

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